Do you sleep in a separate room from your partner?
Are you one of those couples who choose to sleep in a separate room from your partner in order to get a better night’s sleep? Recent research coming out of the USA estimates that up to 25% of all couples sleep apart from each other, in other words, heading for a sleep divorce. The reasons why couples choose to sleep apart are varied but here are some of the common ones:
- Snoring – One partner is woken up by the other snoring
- Partner disturbance – One partner tosses and turns and the other is disturbed
- Different Schedules – One partner is a night owl and reads, watches TV, or surfs the Internet in bed, whereas the other is an early bird and makes noise around the house in the morning
- Poor sleep habits – One partner might fall asleep reading with the light on for example which disturbs the other partner
- Bad bed – A mattress which is too hard or too soft may disrupt the sleep of one partner more than the other
- Bad sleep environment – One partner may prefer the room cool while the other prefers it warm may disrupt the sleep of one partner
Is sleeping apart really the answer though?
The intimacy and togetherness that couples share by sleeping together is a really important aspect of being a couple. For some, it may be the only way to get a good night’s sleep, but for the majority of us, there are some things we can do to “marry” our sleep habits and be able to stay sleeping together. Here are some suggestions for what you can do:
- Address any sleep issues with your doctor – there are effective treatments for sleep issues like Sleep Apnea
- Make your bedroom sleep-friendly – make sure that your room is cool (around 20 degrees Celsius is ideal), dark, and quiet
- Develop good sleep habits – set a limit on the time you surf the Internet at night, better still ban electronic devices altogether from the bedroom, or get a lamp with a timer so that it turns off, or make a concerted effort to be quiet in the morning so as not to wake your partner. These are just examples of the many simple things you can do. Work through your specific issues with your partner and find a compromise that suits both of you.
- Make sure your bed is the best it can be – It is essential that your mattress allows you to sleep in an anatomically neutral position. Your mattress should also be the right size, a too-small mattress increases the likelihood of partner disturbance. Invest in the best quality mattress that you can afford because it just may make all the difference.